北美代写论文作业Keeping Close to Home
With times past by requirement and development, more and more people have to be uprooted from their home due to study, further education, work etc…and other various reasons. Just like Watkins says: “Each movement away makes return harder. Each separation intensifies distance, both physical and emotional.”(Gloria Watkins) The distance pulls away from them and their parents and brings different thoughts to the same thing. However, even though sometimes the parents yell that they don’t agree with what you say, what you want to do, in the end they will support you in their own ways, some of them even fully support their children’s decisions.
According to the essay, Watkins’s parents are working class, it is above their heads that why their little girl must go far away from home and attends Stanford University; and why she loves readings so much. Their ambivalence about Watkins’s academic goals led to intense conflict. On one hand they discourage Watkins to attend Stanford University by expressing their opinions: First, not only for Watkins, but also for their parents themselves, as a working-class background family, they never experience city life: in their daily life, there’s no city buses to take, no escalator to step on, no travels by plane and no touches with large quantity of people. They live a comfortable and closed life; it is hard for them to accept that their daughter is going to live far away from them. They are afraid of changes in life. In this situation, they discourage Watkins to attend Stanford University with their stable life which they are used to live. Second, as an uncultured generation, they think every college is the same, it is better for their daughter to attend a school nearby, an all-black college. To them, all lives after attending a college will upscale as the same: their daughter would graduate, become a school teacher, and make a decent living and a good marriage. In their opinion, it is easier for their black girl to study in familiar surroundings, with all-black people around and similar thoughts around. They don’t know the differences between ordinary universities and prestigious universities, or they know so well. This is the third reason they discourage Watkins to attend Stanford University and read too many books: they know books make people think more and think differently, they fear what college education might do to their girl’s mind even as they unenthusiastically acknowledged its importance. On the other hand, Watkins’s parents support her to finish college by silent pay. As Watkins’s economic source, they can stop giving Watkins money to attend University or buy books, but they don’t; what’s more, even though they always threaten to burn the books or throw them away if she did not conform to other expectations, but they don’t; last but not the least, even though they don’t think it’s a good thing, and it’s no need to read too many books, they hold an opinion that people may go insane if they read too much, they still not take actions to stop their daughter attending Stanford University or reading books.
In my opinion, I don’t agree with the opinion that many parents give their children only limited support when it comes to decisions concerning future education and career choices. Parents’ love is the greatest and the most selfless in the world, in most cases, even though they don’t agree with children’s decisions, they will come to terms in the end and stand together with the children. This makes me think of my parents; it was when I was in high school; I was facing to choose staying in tracked class for a bright class or learning in regular class. For my parents, they think it’s better for me to choose a regular class, because there’s less pressure there, and I will be one of the top students in the class; only with a good mentality, can I learn well. But from my point of view, it’s invigorating if I sit among students who are more excellent than me; their brilliant achievements will encourage me to study harder. What’s more, even though I will be a normal student in a class full of top students, the bookish atmosphere makes me stick to my academic goals. At last, my parents chose to believe in me and fully support my decision I made about my education. It is easy for parents give up their own choices and agree with their children’s, there are two main reasons: one reason is developing with the time, the old generation is hard to catch up with the times, they accept the fact that young generation may have better decisions for themselves in education; the other reason is that parents always respect their children, understand their children, they will choose to let their children be independent decision-making, rather than making decisions for them.
But I have friends who have the same problem with Watkin: when it comes to decisions concerning with future education and career choices, their parents give them only limited support. One of my friends called Prasad; his dream was to be a seaman: sailing at the sea and experiencing lonely travels. But his parents disagreed with him, they vehemently opposed their only son go far away from them. For them, it is better to find a stable and safe job than the job of seaman that is far away from home. Thinking of filial piety, Prasad gave up his dream of being a seaman and had been working in a hospital as a doctor near his hometown.
To conclude, it is normal that there’s conflict between parents and children, but there’s no single standard to judge whose idea is correct or whose decision is wrong. Staying connected with one’s family and community means acknowledging the parts of the past that have enriched one’s life. Denying oneself of familiar speech patterns while adapting to the university leads to unfortunate separation from one’s past. Just as Watkins says, Parents’ ambivalence nurtured in children a like uncertainty about the value and significance of intellectual endeavor that took years for them to unlearn. (Gloria Watkins) Parents’ thoughts have a great influence on children; even they don’t make decisions for them. Many people like doing the opposite things against their parents, actually everything has two sides: parents’ ideas sometimes play the guiding role in our life; they are more experienced than the children. Not only children need the respect and trust from their parents, but also parents should get respect and trust from their children. It is important to maintain one’s family and community ties as one pursues higher education. With respect, understanding, and sharing thoughts with each other, a family will always keep close.
北美代写论文作业Keeping Close to Home
Gloria Watkins Keeping Close to Home.